Dating someone who has herpes
Then she starts talking about how crucial communication and honestly are for her, and I agree yes of course that is central.Long story short, she tells me "Adrian, I have genital herpes." She goes on to tell me about how it's "one of the most common" sexually transmitted infections, and that it isn't serious from a medical standpoint, and that aside from outbreaks, there are no complications from it.Recently, I started talking online with a new guy who made me feel all of the tingles and energy that signal the beginning of an exciting new relationship.I wasn’t prepared when he suddenly dropped a bomb on me: He had genital herpes.It’s true that the majority of the time, genital outbreaks are symptomatic of HSV II, but you can be infected by either type in either location, or even have both types in a given location — which makes me think that, functionally speaking, distinguishing between oral and genital infections is pointless.If you can asymptomatically shed the virus from any point of your body and it can infect any point of another person’s body, isn’t any type or location of herpes just…herpes?HSV-1 is the one that usually causes cold sores around your mouth and lips.HSV-2 is the one usually responsible for genital herpes.
My head tells me to handle this like a mature gentleman.If you’ve been physically intimate, freaking out was probably your first reaction (Do I now have herpes? Then come the other questions: Is herpes a deal breaker? But first, let’s get straight on what herpes is and what it isn’t.Are you stupid to continue a relationship with someone who has herpes? There are two viruses that people talk about when they talk about herpes: Herpes Simplex Virus 1 and Herpes Simplex Virus 2, or HSV-1 and HSV-2.He had been infected as a teenager and was used to managing outbreaks and mixed reactions from partners, which explains why he was so patient with me.The fact that he'd been honest about this pretty major thing before we'd even met was a testament to how trustworthy he was, and maybe because of that, I continued to pursue him.